Monday, the guys reported on their dating lives. Today, the women fill us in.
Kate Searby: I had gone into a coffee shop to pick up dinner—no makeup on and my hair was wet. I saw him there and thought he was cute. I was waiting for my food and he went outside to talk on his cell phone. I went out the back door. He came racing down the street and said he went outside to be smooth, but was going to try and talk to me when I came out. That didn’t work when I went out the back door. He walked me home. He was so cool. It was crazy all the things we had in common. I asked him what he was working on at the coffee shop. He said he was watching Caddy Shack on YouTube. It’s one of my favorite movies. And I think most guys would make themselves sound important.
We went out a few times. He’s a really cool guy, but he isn’t that nice to other people. I took him to an open mic night, and he was making fun of the people who were performing. I thought that was so rude. It takes a lot for people to get up there. That was a big turn off. I think we’ll stay friends, but I don’t want to go out with him again. My dad used to say, “Watch how he treats other people because he might be nice to you, but if he’s mean to others, it’s only so long before that changes.” That’s a big red flag for me. He called and I haven’t called him back yet. I’ll call him back. I think it’s really rude to leave them hanging. I want people to be honest with me so I try to be honest with everyone.
There’s this other guy that I met at Bourbon. On paper we don’t match up very well. He’s really very Catholic. I’m spiritual, but not very religious. He’s a Republican. I’m more of a Democrat. He’s funny. He treats people really well. One of my dogs is a rescue. He just rescued a dog. I’m such a sucker for that. The chemistry is right.
Dana Neill: I put a personal ad on Craigslist and got a few responses. I ended up going out with two of them. One is very nice and really fun to be around, but there doesn’t seem to be much chemistry. The first time we met, we walked around outside. We had lunch in a café and sat outside talking. There’s no attraction. I think he’s an attractive man, and he’s a fun guy to be around. But we don’t have that unique flutter. We talked about it. It’s really nice to be honest with someone. We’ve done a couple of other things together. It seems like we might just be friends.
The second guy, we met and had drinks. We ended up having a really good time. There was that laughter right off the bat. It was comfortable and easy right away. We talked about travel and music and what shows we’ve been watching. We ended up staying for dinner. There’s a physical attraction. He has a great smile. We have traveled to some of the same places and we have similar music interests. We both have children. His are just slightly younger than mine.
The second guy and I went out again. He invited me over one night after work. We had Chinese food. He had this trip planned to Florida with his daughter. Now she can’t go, and on the second date, he asked me to come with him instead. I told him we should have a few more dates. We have, and we’re going Friday. It’s crazy. But life is short. Have fun. We’re going to hate each other or really like each other. I’m committing to a weekend, not the rest of my life.
Sally Colson Cline: I haven’t been out with anyone for a while. I’ve been going out with my friends. I’ve been meeting people at bars, but not really going out after. I think lesbians tend to settle quickly. I know I don’t want to settle down, but I think it’s going to be hard to find someone who’s going to want to date casually.
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