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Arlington Lawyer and “Adventurer” Hits Craigslist to Hire a “Young Socialite”

The job description reads like “Pretty Woman” but without the jewels and sex.

Photograph of “Drew Frederick” courtesy of Frederick.

No one will ever accuse Arlington, Virginia, Craigslist poster #3811257214 of not being inventive and bold, though possibly also a little … odd. In a want ad titled “Executive Social Coordinator,” he describes himself as an “adventurer and entrepreneur in my mid 30s” who seeks a “young socialite” to be his party companion as well as “personal assistant, social advisor, social media manager and event planner.” The job pays $15 to $20 an hour to start, and to qualify the applicant has to be at least 21, well-dressed and organized, a college grad or student, “highly social,” and “capable of attracting and maintaining positive attention.”

Naturally, we reached out to learn more.

The poster, when he phoned us, said he did not want to use his real name but rather would go by “Drew Frederick,” the name with which he is beginning his personal “branding.” Are two names necessary, we wondered? “Part of it is the projects I am working on and different projects from the past,” he says. “Also, I am in a non-monogamous relationship with a woman, and I want to maintain a firewall.” Couldn’t the girlfriend be his party companion? “She is more introverted than I am,” he says, adding that she supports his pursuit nonetheless.

The fact of the girlfriend basically answered our question of whether he was looking for a wife, and he volunteered, “I’m not, though I wonder how many people think that.” He says the job is open to either sex, though he thinks women “are more socially aware than men.” Of the three dozen applicants, so far, a third are men. He’s already interviewed one applicant “at a social setting in Clarendon,” and has three more interviews scheduled for Monday.

Frederick, who practices patent law and also works in real estate, says his future projects include a book and a documentary film. He did not go into detail about these projects, though he says they could be interpreted as “either fascinating and fun or jarring and odd.” You mean like the ad?

On Craigslist, Frederick wrote: “Part of my work depends heavily on social interaction, but I’m finding it difficult to keep up with these demands. I am also an introvert, which makes it especially hard to keep up.” Because he finds social life “an effort,” he wants someone who can smooth that challenge—find him the right parties and be with him at his side. In addition to paying the hourly wage to the would-be social “coordinator,” Frederick says he will also pick up the tab for their partying.

Frederick says he has a “slight preference” for a female companion, and we couldn’t help but wonder whether he’d seen Pretty Woman a few too many times. In the hit ’90s film, businessman Richard Gere employs prostitute Julia Roberts to accompany him to events. He buys her dresses and jewels, they have sex, they fall in love. Frederick responded with a little “hmmm.” Then, he said, “Interesting you should ask that. You did hit on something. Let me follow up with you in about two months.” We’d also like to hear from the person who takes the job, and will update if we do.

  • DC Academic

    Call me a Philistine because I rarely venture into online blogs, but I am amazed at the judgmental tone taken in this piece, both by the writer and the follow-up comments. Whether this fellow has Aspergers, as suggested by one of your kinder posters, or just needs help with social interaction because he is an introvert, he is doing everything out in the open, including responding to the "reporter's" questions. Very few people use their real names in Web posts, as demonstrated by the comments below. As another of your more pragmatic posters wrote, it seems as though he is just trying to engage a social secretary. Nothing new in that. If he characterizes it in a way that offends, it may demonstrate why he needs help with social interaction and communication. Warrne Buffet, in his book Snowball spoke of similar challenges. There are a lot of very smart, very successful, very generous people in this world whose behavior, using the same narrow assessment, would be considered unacceptable. It seems that the writer, and some of the readers, would do well to open their minds to a broader interpretation of human behavior, that seems to be too quickly judged as "odd," or worse, "creepy."

  • BeKind

    He may have high functioning autism (Aspergers) which causes him to be socially awkward. If he does, I can see him needing this help. And he is brilliant to have thought of it.

  • whatever

    What makes this creepy? Actually, what makes it interesting? Sounds like a guy who just wants a social secretary. Not news.

  • Muwahahaha

    Where should we start with what makes it about the fake name for starters. And the fact he listed the ad on Craigslist. What kind of meaningful business transaction can be made with someone that doesn't give a real name? And how many events can this patent attorney (if that's what he really is) actually attend, let alone be invited to? Branding. Pfft. Creating a fake identify is more like it. I bet all he needs is a pencil and a calendar. But I bet he's looking for something other than a social secretary. (And good for The Washingtonian for calling this creeper out.)

  • Urethra Franklin

    There are a lot of people on social media who don't use their real names, including women on facebook who, for example, are teachers and don't want their students to find their profiles. Does that make those women creepy? Also, what's wrong with posting on Craigslist? There are jobs posted on CL. Sounds like paranoia.

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