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Sounds of Silence
Need a break from cell phones and honking horns? Consider a silent retreat. Some provide spiritual guidance; all offer calm where you may want it most—on the inside. By Wendi Kaufman
Comments () | Published May 1, 2008

Travel > Nearby Getaways > Great Weekends

Ready for a life without telephones, televisions, computers, and other earthly distractions? Few of us are. But we could all use a break from time to time.

For those seeking a respite from the noisy demands of daily life, a silent retreat might be in order. Whether set amid the rolling hills of the Shenandoah Valley or right in the heart of Washington, spiritual retreats offer peace and quiet where you need it most: on the inside.

There are a few things to keep in mind. Most retreat accommodations are spartan, with single beds and sparse furnishings (think college dorm). Spiritual retreats nourish not only your mind but your body: If a meal plan is available, it will likely feature organic or vegetarian fare.

While the idea of silence may sound good in theory, some people find they need help keeping the peace. Some centers offer a spiritual guide or coach to help you through the process with prompts, insights, and guided meditation.

Silent does not mean sedentary. Some retreats have organized activities, like yoga; others offer a do-it-yourself approach, providing access to facilities like gardens and chapels.

Retreats may be rooted in religious tradition or operate on a philosophical ethos. Though ideologies may differ, all share a common directive: Leave your cell phones and other communication devices at home. At the end of the day, the only voice you really need to hear is your own inner one.

Where to Experience the Silent Treatment

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “Real action is in silent moments.”

Here’s a sampling of options in our area to experience your own silent moments. Prices vary from as little as $20 a night for a room up to $200 for lodging and meals for a weekend. Some religious retreats do not set a cost but appreciate a donation. Some retreat centers welcome visitors who want to come just for the day.

Am Kolel Sanctuary and Renewal Center, Beallsville, Md.; 301-349-2799; Only 40 minutes northwest of the Beltway, Am Kolel feels like it’s a world away. The sanctuary, open to all faiths, includes a meditation garden, labyrinth, chapel, screened gazebo, and more than 20 acres of woods to explore. A massage therapist and yoga instructor are on site. Attend a retreat or design your own; spiritual direction is available. The center does not provide food; guests may bring their own and prepare meals in a kosher kitchen—no meat or shellfish, please.

Benedictine Pastoral Center, Bristow, Va.; 703-393-2485; Rooted in the Christian Benedictine tradition, the center offers quiet spaces for relaxation and prayer. The monastery setting offers a labyrinth, outdoor Stations of the Cross, and wooded walks.

Bon Secours Spiritual Center, Marriottsville, Md.; 410-442-1320; Sponsored by the Sisters of Bon Secours, the center is open to all faiths. On more than 300 acres, the farm and woodlands include a meditation garden, Japanese garden, chapel, labyrinth walk, and a pond with small waterfalls. Guests are welcome to use the outdoor pool (in season), indoor fitness center, and library. For overnight guests, rates include three meals a day.

Dayspring Silent Retreat Center, Germantown; 301-428-9348; The place to go when you’re serious about silence. Retreats are self-guided, though spiritual direction is available. Individual retreats are scheduled Monday through Thursday except during July and August, when some weekends are also available.

Dominican Retreat House, McLean; 703-356-4243; With its 12 acres of rolling lawns and quiet hills, it’s hard to believe that this retreat is inside the Beltway. For more than 40 years, Dominican has been a haven for solitude and renewal. Though open to all faiths, it is rooted in the Roman Catholic tradition and offers the opportunity to attend Mass.

Friends Wilderness Center, near Harpers Ferry; 304-728-4820; Twenty minutes east of Charles Town, West Virginia, this Quaker-sponsored sanctuary offers a wilderness setting and basic lodging including a yurt, tree house, and campsite. Breakfast and dinner included; lunch can be brought in or is provided for $7 each.

Holy Cross Abbey, Berryville, Va.; 540-955-4383; Experience the monastic life at Holy Cross. Run by Cistercian (Trappist) monks, the abbey offers nondirected individual retreats where silence is strictly observed during meals. Stays are Monday to Friday or Friday to Sunday, with basic single rooms, private baths, and three meals a day. Monks are available for spiritual direction and confession.

Loyola Retreat House, Faulkner, Md.; 301-870-3515; Thirty-five miles south of Washington, on the bluffs overlooking the Potomac, this Jesuit center provides directed and nondirected retreats at certain times of the year—upcoming weeks are available in June, July, and August. This is a picturesque setting: Guests can explore the woods or riverfront beach, and, like Dick Browne, enjoy sunsets over the Potomac.

Rising Phoenix Retreat Center, Flintstone, Md.; 301-478-2715; On 20 acres in the mountains of Western Maryland, Rising Phoenix, owned and operated by Loyola College, is a nondenominational retreat for groups, families, and individuals. Meals feature whole grains, fresh organic produce, and lowfat items.

St. Anselm’s Abbey, Northeast DC; 202-269-2300; In the heart of the city, the abbey and its chapel are open to all. Overnight retreats are for men only. If they wish, guests can consult with a monk.

StoneSong Awareness and Nature Center, Flintstone, Md.; 301-478-3368; For those who want to heighten their environmental consciousness, StoneSong is the place. The Nature Center hosts workshops, retreats, sweat lodges, drumming circles, and simple weekend getaways for individuals, couples, or groups.

Can’t get away for the night but would like to find some inner quiet? The Insight Meditation Community of Washington offers half- and full-day retreats at area locations. Day retreats focus on meditation, mindfulness, and movement, and most are conducted in silence. For details, contact 202-986-2922;


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